A couple of people have commented recently about how I’ve got my life / shit together. My instant thought was to say ‘oh hell no, no I haven’t, no one’s got their shit together’ but that reaction felt like a deflection of a compliment, and as soon as I thought about saying it, I could feel my body get uncomfortable, because it’s just not true.
Actually, I do have a lot of my life and shit together right now. Mainly because it’s taken a hell of a lot of work to get there. I mean, it does depend on what people mean, and it’s going to be subjective right, but I know myself pretty damn well, I know what I like, what I don’t like and I know how I want to live my life. I make (mostly) good choices and get out there and make things happen.
Obviously having your life and shit together doesn’t mean you’re infallible, that everything’s going well, or you have everything figured out, and I don’t say it to brag. It’s just this is where I’m at right now, the reward of doing a shit tonne of personal growth, pushing myself and making lots of mistakes over the last ten years.
It doesn’t mean you don’t have crap things happen, or tough times, and it doesn’t mean you always know how to deal with it. But it probably does mean you have some good coping strategies about how to get through it. I have a big trust and belief in myself to be able to deal with whatever comes my way, and that everything will be OK. Admittedly that got tested heavily last year, but I’m still standing.
I’ll always keep learning, I will make more mistakes, and because of that, no one ever FULLY has everything figured out. But they can have their life together in a way that works for them. Which, right now, I do.