Cohabiting with a big pink saxophone

‘At first it felt like a bit of a holiday. You have to work out where you’re going to lock yourself down, so that’s the first dilemma isn’t it?’ Julie had several options, and elderly family to consider, but in the end chose to lockdown with her partner at his house. They’ve never lived together before, in the 30 years that they’ve been together. ‘In … Continue reading Cohabiting with a big pink saxophone

Live the life you love

Jenny laughs, when I ask her how lockdown is going. ‘Well, I’m quite enjoying it, I have to say, although it’s been a real emotional journey, from absolute, acute, ridiculous, over the top oh-my-god-I’m-going-to-die-tomorrow kind of anxiety at the start, with me making out my will and all sorts.’ That anxiety went away a bit for Jenny when the UK actually went into lockdown, because … Continue reading Live the life you love

Lockdown dating diary

The screen flickers and I see the beams of Ruth’s kitchen ceiling, and I picture her little country cottage nestled in a picture perfect Cotswold village, surrounded by rolling hills and endless green English countryside. I see a figure in a dressing gown moving about at the bottom of the screen, and a voice shouts, “hang on, I’m just sorting my coffee”. It’s 8am in … Continue reading Lockdown dating diary

Love and liver failure

“I’d probably say my lockdown experience is really boring,” Natalie laughs. We’ve not spoken in nearly five years, bonded by an unforgettable induction experience when we both started a new job on the same day. Her voice and accent is exactly the same as someone I know here in Christchurch, and which is strange. I’m not sure where it’s from, apart from that it’s ‘down … Continue reading Love and liver failure

A musing on relationships

Recently I’ve had cause to think about [romantic] relationships and my perspective on them, and I’ve been asked to share them. (Just to be clear, this is my perspective.) Society mainly seems to define a successful relationship by it’s longevity, doesn’t it? No thought of whether it’s happy, or functional, or healthy. Just long.  Find the person you “want to spend the rest of your … Continue reading A musing on relationships

A year in moments #9 – the story based on a poem

He laid awake, looking to his left. The light was just starting to peek through the curtains. She was facing away from him, sleeping. He watched her shoulder and the curve of her back, just exposed by the covers. She gently turned over to him, her eyelids giving away that she wasn’t yet awake. He watched her face; her beauty. He watched her breathe, the … Continue reading A year in moments #9 – the story based on a poem

A year in moments #4 – the Valentine’s Day mystery

Valentine’s Day; a day for love and romance and all that jazz. It’s been a while since I’ve been seeing someone over Valentines Day, so it doesn’t usually register. I was at work; about 11am and Nick (who’s staying in my flat) messaged me about something. “Oh, and you’ve had a delivery,” he said. What? It’s Valentine’s Day and I have a delivery? How exciting. “But … Continue reading A year in moments #4 – the Valentine’s Day mystery

A year in moments #2 – arriving in New Zealand

It was about lunchtime, yet my brain didn’t really know what time or day it was. I’d been travelling for over 30 hours and my weary body was pleased to have finally landed. I didn’t know what was waiting for me behind the arrival gates. Would he be there at the front with a big banner, flowers and a flash mob? I doubted it, but … Continue reading A year in moments #2 – arriving in New Zealand