The tortoise and the hare

'Lockdown is very slow,' Gemma pops up, and then ducks out of sight on the screen. 'I was furloughed for the first four weeks, and as soon as I started loving furlough life, they called me back; our systems aren't set up for working from home.' The first week was weird, she says, mainly because... Continue Reading →

Lockdown dating diary

The screen flickers and I see the beams of Ruth's kitchen ceiling, and I picture her little country cottage nestled in a picture perfect Cotswold village, surrounded by rolling hills and endless green English countryside. I see a figure in a dressing gown moving about at the bottom of the screen, and a voice shouts,... Continue Reading →

Love and liver failure

“I’d probably say my lockdown experience is really boring,” Natalie laughs. We’ve not spoken in nearly five years, bonded by an unforgettable induction experience when we both started a new job on the same day. Her voice and accent is exactly the same as someone I know here in Christchurch, and which is strange. I’m... Continue Reading →

Apology languages

"I'm sorry.....But...." This drives me CRAZY. My ex-husband used to do it all the time. Apologies seemed meaningless and insincere. There was always a reason, an excuse for shitty behaviour; usually it was me. "I'm sorry. But...you know how to wind me up." "I'm sorry. But...I had a bad day at work." "That but wipes... Continue Reading →

A musing on relationships

Recently I’ve had cause to think about [romantic] relationships and my perspective on them, and I've been asked to share them. (Just to be clear, this is my perspective.) Society mainly seems to define a successful relationship by it’s longevity, doesn't it? No thought of whether it’s happy, or functional, or healthy. Just long.  Find... Continue Reading →

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